Shirley Reta,(nee Totten) FALCONER

Falconer, Shirley Reta, (nee Totten)

August 18, 1926 – December 22, 2012

Let’s say goodbye like we said hello in a friendly kind of way (words of an old song). If you are reading this you will know that I am off on the wings of that great white dove. I hope that he has his directions straight as I want to join family and friends gone before me.

I was born in Fort Francis Ontario in 1926 and came to BC in 1944. I later took my nurses training and joined the American Navy. I came back to BC and was married in 1948 to Robert Harold Falconer but we went our separate ways in 1961. I continued working in the nursing field until my retirement and then moved to Campbell River to be close to family.

I am going to miss the people that were brought into my life that increased my circle of love, especially my daughter Patricia (Patti) and son-in-law Leonard Aspden, grandchildren Todd (Jennifer) Aspden, great-grandchildren, Richard, Jessica, Thomas Aspden and Karen Aspden (Aaron Habel), great-grandchildren Zachary and Ashley Habel. She was predeceased by her daughter Kathryn (Kate) Thomson. Kate’s children, Keith (Mamie) Falconer, Drew (Wendy) Thomson and Tiffanny Thomson and great-granddaughter Ava Thomson.

Everybody should have siblings and I had only one brother Durwood Totten, who passed away in 1958. He left behind my nephew Larry Totten, great nieces Christina and Sherri and great nephew Daniel. Larry lost his wife, Anita, just this past October after a brief battle with cancer.

My father, Daniel Totten also passed away in 1958 and left my mother, May Cloe (Fadden) Totten alone for many years. She was a wonderful example to me until she left me an orphan in 1996.

I have had a great life filled with countless kind and interesting people. I haven’t always made good decisions in my life but I am happy to say my children and their families have exceeded my expectations. Patti lived close by and we enjoyed much together and her help in the last few years was very much appreciated.

It has been a grand experience having met and enjoyed the company of many people, the kindness I received in my many trips to the hospital, the fun I had for so short a time at Ironwood Place and then the loving care from the staff at Evergreen Seniors Home. My sincere thanks to Drs. Larry Ness and Jennifer Kask and all my healthcare workers over the years who helped make me able to stay in my own home for an extended period.

It has been a great ride everyone and thanks for your part in my life.


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